By Arline Rowden
Now that we are in the Aquarian Age, there is a lot of talk about compassion and moving into your heart. Does that happen just by declaring that it is so? Can it happen in an instant? Or does it take some time and effort? In my experience, it is a process and does take ongoing time and effort.
What I came to discover in my own journey was that I wasn’t able to stay focused in my heart and be compassionate when someone said or did something mean spirited to me. I lost my focus and was reactive and did something mean spirited back. That is actually called revenge. It wasn’t a word that I wanted to own. I was in denial.
It took me quite a while to be honest with myself and admit that I had said and done some things that were quite hurtful to others. Being honest gave me the courage to look at these experiences and to begin to do some deep emotional healing. At first, I felt a lot of guilt and shame, too. I had to come to a place of believing that I did the best I knew how at the time these things happened. I needed to accept and forgive myself.
Sometimes I could apologize, but other times the person was no longer alive or I didn’t know how to contact them. In meditation, I asked my Soul to connect with the other person’s Soul and addressed the issue Soul to Soul. But just saying sorry isn’t enough. I needed to change my behavior.
How could I stop being so reactive? The emotional healing helped greatly. But I needed to develop some new behaviors, too. Noticing physical sensations were helpful, since my body gave me clues about how I was doing moment to moment. It’s about being more aware of how I was feeling in present time. That way things didn’t sneak up on me as often. I was able to become more thoughtful and take time before I would say or do something.
In time, I made a commitment to myself and my Soul that I would stop hurting others. I sincerely wanted to be focused in my heart. All of this happened over many years; it was a process. It became possible for me to be more respectful and caring towards others. I became awake and aware enough to notice when others were in emotional pain and if they said or did something mean spirited I was often able to not take it so personally. Again, it was a process that took time and effort and patience.
I sincerely wanted to be the best person I could be and help make the world a better place. The more I developed my Soul connection, the more I was able to accomplish these goals. The Soul’s energy is so positive and it helped me to be more positive as I was willing to receive its energy. As I opened to my Soul’s Light, it was easier to see my way forward.
It has also taken cooperation from my personality. The personality always seems to want to know what’s in it for itself. It took me a while to be able to answer that question. What I discovered is that my personality experiences more peace now because of moving into my heart.
In Chinese Medicine, the heart is called the sea of tranquility. They also say that the only job of the heart is to be an open vessel for Spirit. They say that the Shen (Spirit) birds won’t come home to roost in the heart unless it is peaceful. I love these ideas. I invite you to start or continue on your journey of moving into your heart so you can live in a peaceful world.